To be a fallen human is to desire autonomy—literally to be a “law unto oneself” instead of submitting to God’s authority. This is why the concept of submission is hard; yet, this is the way of Jesus. To follow Jesus is to relinquish control over to Him. Jesus says this Himself in the Gospel of Matthew: “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me” (Matthew 16:24 ESV). To follow Jesus is to submit to Him, which is neither abstract nor theoretical, but rather very practical. So what does it look like in the context of membership?
First, submitting to Jesus looks like submitting to His ways. As Paul writes to the Christians in Ephesus, “Be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us” (Ephesians 5:1 ESV). Paul expected the believers, saved by the gospel, to pattern their lives after God by walking in love. Paul uses the subsequent verses to describe what walking in love looks like. In one sense, church membership is submitting to the commands of God, acknowledging His ways are better than ours.
Second, submitting to Jesus looks like submitting to the appointed leaders over His church. “Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account” (Hebrews 13:17 ESV). Jesus is the head of the church, but He has entrusted pastors/elders/overseers to lead and care for His church. The author of Hebrews very explicitly commands believers to listen to and follow their leaders. But why? It is God’s design to use these imperfect individuals to encourage spiritual growth in the believer’s life. Therefore, in another practical sense, church membership involves submitting to the leaders of the church, following their lead, praying for them, and trusting them.
Finally, submitting to Jesus looks like submitting to His people. Paul writes in Ephesians, “Be filled with the Spirit…submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Ephesians 5:18, 21 ESV). Paul explains one of the fruits of a Spirit-filled life is submitting to others. In other words, we know God is at work in our lives when we are putting the preferences and desires of others ahead of our own; when we are asking what others want more than we are asking what we want. Church membership also looks like brothers and sisters in Christ laying down their personal preferences for the sake of the common good.